Jealousy, backstabbing, competing for attention, and struggles for popularity, many women experience these “sister wounds” early in life. They leave imprints, shaping how we view and interact with other women. These wounds teach mistrust, and in some cases, this mistrust is passed down through generations. When a boyfriend cheats, for instance, the blame often falls on “the other woman” instead of the partner who broke trust. Mothers sometimes unknowingly reinforce these narratives, warning their daughters to be wary of other girls.

But these wounds don’t have to define us. By reflecting on our past and taking intentional steps toward rebuilding trust, we can create a ripple effect of support, collaboration, and love among women. Healing these wounds isn’t just personal, it’s a collective shift for our gender.

Why Sister Wounds Run So Deep

Sister wounds are rooted in cultural norms that pit women against each other. We’re taught from a young age to see one another as competition—for beauty, attention, success, or approval. Instead of fostering connection, this mindset isolates us, making us feel like we’re safer on our own or that other women can’t be trusted.

When left unaddressed, these wounds can manifest as jealousy, judgment, or even an inability to celebrate other women’s successes. They block us from experiencing the deep sense of sisterhood that comes from mutual support and understanding.

Questions to Start Your Healing Journey

Healing begins with self-awareness. Reflecting on your own experiences and patterns can help you uncover where mistrust or pain might be lingering. Here are some questions to ask yourself:

• What are my earliest memories of feeling hurt or betrayed by another girl or woman? How did it shape me?

• Have I ever blamed a woman for something that wasn’t entirely her fault? Why did I feel that way?

• Do I feel safe being vulnerable with other women? If not, what am I afraid of?

• When I feel jealous of another woman, what is it really telling me about my own desires or insecurities?

• What narratives about women did I inherit from my family or culture? Are they serving me, or are they holding me back?

These questions aren’t meant to bring up guilt or shame. Instead, they’re tools to uncover patterns and beliefs that might be blocking your path to connection.

Tiny Steps Toward Rebuilding Trust

Healing sister wounds doesn’t happen overnight, but small, intentional steps can lead to profound shifts:

Practice Gratitude for Women in Your Life
Start small by acknowledging and appreciating the women who support you. Whether it’s a kind friend, a coworker who lifts you up, or a stranger who smiled at you in passing, focus on the positive.

Celebrate Other Women
When you notice jealousy creeping in, reframe it. Instead of comparing yourself to another woman, take a moment to celebrate her. Compliment her openly or internally reflect on how her success inspires you.

Be Honest About Your Own Pain
If you’ve felt hurt by another woman, find a safe space to express it. Journaling or talking to a trusted friend can help you process those feelings without judgment.

Extend Grace
Remember that women who hurt others are often carrying their own unhealed wounds. This doesn’t excuse harmful behavior, but it can help you see the humanity behind it and soften your response.

Model Trust and Vulnerability
If you have daughters, nieces, or younger women in your life, show them what healthy female relationships look like. Be honest about your own healing process and encourage open, judgment free conversations.

The Collective Shift

Imagine a world where women see one another as allies instead of rivals. Where we can sit in circles—literal or metaphorical—and hold space for each other’s triumphs and struggles without fear of judgment. That shift starts with each of us.

When we choose to heal our sister wounds, we dismantle the societal narratives that tell us to compete, compare, and mistrust. We create a ripple effect, modeling a new way of being for the next generation.

By questioning old beliefs, celebrating one another, and extending grace, we take tiny steps toward something bigger: a collective healing. Together, we can rewrite the story of what it means to be a woman—not in competition, but in connection.

Let’s move toward a sisterhood built on trust, love, and understanding. It’s time to heal.