Feeling seen is a fundamental human need that extends beyond mere acknowledgment; it's about experiencing genuine recognition, validation, and understanding from others. Unfortunately, many of us navigate life feeling marginalized and ignored, sometimes even within our own families.

The sense of being unseen or overlooked can stem from various sources. It might arise from societal biases, where certain groups or individuals are systematically sidelined or dismissed based on their race, gender, sexual orientation, or socioeconomic status. These systemic inequalities can lead to feelings of invisibility and erasure, perpetuating cycles of marginalization and disenfranchisement.

Moreover, feeling unseen can also manifest in personal relationships, including within our families. Despite being physically present, some individuals may not receive the emotional validation and support they crave from their loved ones. This could be due to a lack of empathy, communication barriers, or unresolved conflicts within the family dynamic. In such cases, individuals may internalize feelings of unworthiness or insignificance, further exacerbating their sense of being unseen.

The consequences of feeling marginalized or ignored can be profound, impacting one's self-esteem, mental health, and overall well-being. It can lead to feelings of loneliness, isolation, and alienation, diminishing one's sense of belonging and connection to others. Over time, chronic experiences of being unseen can erode one's confidence and sense of identity, hindering personal growth and fulfillment.

Recognizing the importance of feeling seen is the first step toward addressing this pervasive issue. Creating spaces where individuals can express themselves authentically, share their experiences, and receive validation is crucial for fostering a sense of belonging and acceptance. It requires active listening, empathy, and a willingness to engage with others with an open heart and mind.

At Pretty Skin Bitch, we're committed to cultivating a community where everyone feels seen, heard, and valued. Inspired by David Brooks' insightful book, "How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen," we're embracing the concept of the "illuminator" — someone who has a persistent curiosity about other people and shines the brightness of their care on others.

Our community is growing with intention, through the art of conversation and connection. If it stays a small community, that is okay, but if we can grow the 'muscle' of being an 'illuminator,' we believe this can have a ripple effect throughout the communities outside of our own.

Social media was supposed to bring us closer together, but often leaves us feeling more disconnected. Our focus is on reversing that trend. That's why we've created a safe space for meaningful conversations and authentic connections, both here through our stories and in our dedicated Facebook group.

Whether our community remains small or expands, the impact of embracing the illuminator mindset is profound. It's about more than just numbers; it's about creating a culture of empathy, compassion, and genuine connection that extends far beyond our digital borders. Together, let's continue to grow and spread the light of understanding and acceptance.